Sex Diary: The Married Woman Who’s Been Cheating for 6 Years

12:30 p.m. Hospital has been crazy all day. I work in emergency medicine, and my husband is in advertising; we both commute into the city every day on the train. I always look around at everyone on the train and wonder what skeletons they’re hiding in their closets. Who else is leading a double life?

I text M asking how his weekend was because he hasn’t messaged me yet. He loves to play head games. It’s his thing. Anxiety hits a peak once I hit send on the text message … I never know when he will respond.

12:45 p.m. Time for a “bathroom break.” Because I have a lot of anxiety, I counteract that with a lot of masturbation — usually about seven or eight times a day. Luckily, we have private bathrooms in our section of the hospital. It literally takes me all of 20 seconds to get myself off so I make a lot of very short bathroom visits over the course of my day. Better than popping Xanax, right?

- The Cut

I don't know who anyone is anymore

I Used to Write for Sports Illustrated. Now I Deliver Packages for Amazon

Holiday parties were right around the corner, and I needed a cover story. I didn’t feel like admitting to casual acquaintances, or even to some good friends, that I drive a van for Amazon. I decided to tell them, if asked, that I consult for Amazon, which is loosely true: I spend my days consulting a Rabbit, the handheld Android device loaded with the app that tells me where my next stop is, how many packages are coming off the van, and how hopelessly behind I’ve fallen.

- The Atlantic

“The Death Of Colossus”: Striking Candid Photographs That Capture Everyday Life In The USSR In 1984-1989

The ’80s weren’t a great time for those living in the USSR, although those living in Moscow had it better than most. Here’s a look at everyday life of the Soviets in the late 1980s. These amazing photographs were taken by Chris Niedenthal in 1984 through 1989.

- Design you Trust

Love Is Not a Permanent State of Enthusiasm: An Interview with Esther Perel

The psychotherapist Esther Perel knows how to work a room. Since the publication of her first book, “Mating in Captivity,” in 2006, she has travelled the world, speaking to audiences about love, sex, intimacy, and infidelity: the nuts and bolts of romantic life. (Those who do not have an opportunity to see her live can watch her on the ted stage, where her videos, subtitled in more than thirty languages, have been viewed tens of millions of times.) Perel, who grew up in Antwerp as the daughter of Holocaust survivors, got her start as a family therapist, focussing on issues of trauma and cultural conflict. Couples have since become her clinical and theoretical specialty. In a style marked by humor, frankness, and empathy, Perel’s talks and books take a counterintuitive approach to answering provocative questions: How did the romantic couple become the primary unit of organization in society? Can romantic desire truly be sustained? Is infidelity ever a good thing?

- The New Yorker

James Bond esclave de l’alcool

Il défie les pires méchants et protège le monde de leurs attaques sournoises. Mais qui va sauver James Bond, qui, lui, doit composer depuis plus de 50 ans avec un grave problème « d’alcoolisme chronique », comme le révèle une analyse en règle de ses comportements dans 24 films ?

- Le Devoir

ANNA POLINA : « JE PENSAIS QUE LE PORNO ÉTAIT SUPER PUNK »

Tu crois qu’on pourrait un jour retrouver du porno au cinéma ?

-Ah non. C’est impossible. Je pense que ça n’arrivera pas. Nous vivons dans une société ou l’on nous fait croire qu’on est « libéré » en nous vendant 50 Shades of Grey dans les supermarchés, mais à côté de ça tout est de plus en plus compliqué. Je pensais aux Valseuses récemment et à l’époque il y avait une liberté. Ça baisait sur le tournage ! Et pour 50 Shade of Grey on est quand même dans une comédie romantique ratée avec du SM pour papa et maman absolument horrible. Les gens ont l’impression de se sentir libres en regardant ça, c’est si triste. Je trouve qu’on fait tout pour que les gens soient frustrés, stagnent dans une sorte de misère sociale et sexuelle, qui contraste avec leur mise en avant sur les réseaux sociaux.

- Le Tag Parfait

Vintage Photographs of People Reading Newspapers Before the Invention of That Grossly Antisocial Device: The Smartphone

Since the smartphone boom put tiny computers in hundreds of millions of pockets, there’ve been countless critics eager to point out that invasive technology is changing our lives for the worse, and worse, changing who we are. It’s turning us into selfish, anti-social automatons, they say, again and again and again.

But how much has really changed? Sure, we’re media-obsessed, anti-social crazy people, but we’ve always been this way.

- Vintage Everyday

What Did Ancient Romans Do Without Toilet Paper?

When Mt. Vesuvius erupted on August 24 in A.D. 79, Pompeii, Herculaneum, and other Roman settlements were sealed as time capsules. They were first excavated in the 18th century, and since then these sites have given us a wonderful view into ancient Roman society.

Many of the bathrooms uncovered at Pompeii and elsewhere were communal. In many cases, they were beautiful, with frescoes on the walls, sculptures in the corners, and rows of holes carved into cold, Italian marble slabs.

- Sapiens

LE PARFUM, la série inspirée du roman sur Netflix

Le best-seller Le Parfum inspire une série télé allemande à découvrir courant décembre en exclusivité sur Netflix.

Chef d’œuvre de la littérature moderne sorti en 1985, le roman de Patrick Süskind a rapidement suscité les envies de nombreux producteurs au vu de son succès. Pendant longtemps, l’auteur ne voulait qu’un seul homme pour réaliser l’adaptation de son livre,  le réalisateur Stanley Kubrick. À la mort de celui-ci, l’écrivain s’était finalement résigné à céder les droits aux producteur allemand  Bernd Eichinger qui avait sorti en 2006 une version ciné réalisée par Tom Tykwer après que de prestigieux réalisateurs dont Martin Scorsese se soient cassé les dents sur le projet. Douze ans plus tard, Netflix nous propose de découvrir une nouvelle adaptation très libre du Parfum sous la forme d’une série télé allemande à partir du 21 décembre 2018.

- Freakin Geek

A Holiday Potpourri of 40 Classy to Wildly Irreverent Vintage Christmas Magazine Covers

Sure, we could have delivered a bunch of boring Christmas magazine back issues, but that’s no fun.  Instead, I’ve selected a stack of holiday editions which I found interesting – for their irreverence, nostalgia or just plain intangible awesomeness.  Enjoy…

- Flashbak

Ten mistakes smart people never make twice

Everybody makes mistakes—that’s a given—but we don’t always learn from them. Sometimes we make the same mistakes over and over again, fail to make any real progress, and can’t figure out why.

“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”—Bruce Lee

When we make mistakes, it can be hard to admit them because doing so feels like an attack on our self-worth. This tendency poses a huge problem because new research proves something that common sense has told us for a very long time—fully acknowledging and embracing errors is the only way to avoid repeating them.

- Quartz

A letter to… my friend with benefits

I've just seen you again after about 10 years, three marriages and four children between us, and it feels as if nothing has changed. But of course it has. We’re in our 40s now; both older, a bit fatter (well, me, certainly), a bit more jaded. Those heady days of our 20s are well and truly behind us. Gone are the days of no responsibility – and even this lunch date had to be planned well in advance.

- The Guardian