As a thoroughly modern straight woman, I understand the political allure of demanding that a man go down on me. To insist on sexual
pleasure—empowering! To tell a man to put his face in my ostensibly
shameful genitals—transgressive! The vision of a woman, at long last,
being the one to authoritatively order a man to get on his knees? Yeah, I
see how that might look like sweet, sweet sexual parity. But after many
years and a wide variety of partners, I feel more and more a part of
the sorority of women who are ambivalent on receiving oral sex.
-Fusion